To cut it short, I was at a nightclub minding my business, having fun, tearing up the dance floor when I felt a man reach over and grab my breast. Now I can always tell when someone accidentally grazes up against me when trying to get past me in a packed club, but this was a clear and definite grab. Now, even though all of my friends fear confrontation, I have an attitude and like telling people if they’ve pissed me off. So I followed that dude over and made sure everyone around him knew what he did. Another man close by grabbed him by his shoulders and dragged him out towards the entrance. Right after this, I was able to bounce back and went right back to dancing.
On the way home, though, my friends told me that I took the confrontation too far and embarrassed them. One friend kept going about how the man was clearly drunk and didn’t know what he was doing, and then said, “what if he thought you were his girlfriend and now he feels like some kind of pervert”. This man was an older white man, probably in his fifties, and I’m a young black girl with braids - I HIGHLY doubt I looked like his wife from behind, let along the front. After I threw out that theory my friends, even my female friends, reminded me that I’m wearing a revealing top in a crowded place, and what should I expect.
I felt really sick and I just want them out of my life. This isn’t the first time I’ve had to stand up for myself for them to tell me I’m embarrassing or “ghetto”. Of course they don’t say the same thing when I stand up to defend them, though.
Was my reaction an overreaction? Am I right to just ghost on all of these friends?
edit: thank you for everyone who gave me supportive comments and a double thank you to whoever gave me silver. as for the people who think i’m cutting off people over a matter of opinion: i’m sorry you think victim blaming and excusing/forgiving sexual assault is just opinion. i understand not everyone is okay with confrontation like i am, but i don’t think it’s too much to ask for friends who will support me for standing up for myself and not call me ghetto for putting up a fight for anyone BUT them.
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