Hi all, I’ll try to make this as brief and unbiased as possible. I met my bf a year ago, we have always had protected sex ( I’m on the pill and he wears a condom). I have no idea what happened but I still managed to get pregnant. I immediately decided to get an abortion. I asked my bf if he could come and support me through the procedure. He said he didn’t want to take a day off. Full disclosure if it gives insight: he works from home taking contracts as a programmer, makes $150k a year and can take off whenever he feels like it.
So whatever, he told me he wasn’t coming and that I had to take care of it. This was a week ago. The procedure was yesterday and it went as well as can be expected. I went to his house afterwards and he told me he had a surprise for me: it was a small, child sized bowl with cutesy animals on it. I thanked him but mentioned that this was maybe not the best gift as I just had a tough day and was emotional at best. He then told me he had a wonderful day with his family and proceeded to show me a video of his father and nephew doing egg hunts together and the father teaching the nephew to wash his hands, etc. So I immediately started bawling because I just terminated a pregnancy ( it wasn’t wanted and I don’t regret it, but it doesn’t mean I feel sensitive about it). He became very cold and asked me to stop crying, saying that I was overreacting and he was just trying to make me feel better. He didn’t apologize and we went to bed upset. I woke up in the middle of the night because I was cramping and sore, so I went on his couch and had a good cry. Apparently that woke him up because he came to ask me if I was going to continue crying for long and told me to turn off the lights ASAP because I was being inconsiderate.
AITAH? I feel like he doesn’t give a rats ass about me and is being disrespectful, he says it’s the ‘pregnancy hormones’ making me whiny.
ETA: thank you all for your judgement and messages. I’m going to have a conversation w my bf tonight. To those who think he wanted to keep it: he made it clear (explicitly) that he didn’t want it. Regardless, I want to at least understand his motivations. I will try to post an update when this is all over. Thank you again. Also don’t waste your time calling me a baby killer, I’m 100% pro choice and would do it again in a heartbeat. If you can’t understand why, then you’re not someone I want to engage with anyway.
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