This is my first time posting here and I’m on mobile. I’m sorry if I make any mistakes.
My husband and I have been together for 6 years, married for 1, friends for 14 (we met in high school.). We were out at an event on Friday night and my phone died while he was busy for two hours so I started browsing Reddit using his phone. My thumb print is programmed into his phone and it isn’t unusual for us to use each others phones.
When I opened his app the entire front page was filled with nsfw content/subs so I looked at the profiles and saw that he was logged into a secondary account used only for porn. I have no problem with porn - in fact we frequently watch it together. I saw his user name and scrolled through a page of comments when he came over to check on me. I quickly closed the app and when I saw him - I’m not sure why.. I think I felt so shocked I didn’t want to tell him I’d seen?
He took his phone from me and while he had it he logged out of that account and gave me back his phone.
Later that night from my own Reddit account I searched his user name and found hundreds of messages on gonewild subs but also subs for specific girls. His comments were mostly compliments to body types that don’t really match with mine. A few girls had posted fantasies about making videos with men while they do xyz or exchanging Snapchat videos. He posted “I’ve PMed you”. One of those posts was just before our wedding.
Four years ago he posted on an askreddit thread titled “Reddit have you ever met a psychopath?” He commented “I may be dating one now. Wait a couple months and I’ll let you know” we had been together two years at that point. But I don’t know context - if we’d had a fight or what?
He had an important work event tonight that he was really stressed about so I haven’t brought it up yet. I feel sick to my stomach and I haven’t slept at all. We’ve been trying to have a baby and I just can’t imagine continuing to sleep with him when I’m feeling so undesirable.
Am I overreacting? Is this cheating? How do I talk to him about this? I’ve never felt worse about myself or my body.
TL;DR - without intending to snoop I stumbled upon my husbands porn Reddit account and he’s been messaging people in a way that feels like cheating to me.
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