Bit of background: I normally work from home, but I had to come into the office for a few days, because I am applying for a new position and I wanted to shake hands and do an interview in person. It is about a 3.5 hour drive to the main office building, so my wife, our 2 kids, and I all planned to stay at a relatives house during this time. The relative’s house was empty(they were going to be on vacation during this time).
We drove over yesterday, but when we were about 45 min away from their house, they texted and said their vacation didn’t happen because their flights were cancelled by a hurricane. They forgot to let us know until just then. My wife had no intention of staying there while they were there too, so we was very upset by this and pleaded with me to find a hotel instead. We had no money for that, so I said we couldn’t do it. We sat there arguing for a long time, she was crying for most of it saying things like “I don’t want to go!” and “don’t make me go!”.
My only option was to drive her back home, but that would have added 5 hours to my night and it was already late, so I told her she had to suck it up and stay there anyways.
She continued crying and punching the roof of the car, and eventually I snapped and yelled at her, saying things like “Stop acting like a baby” and “Just suck it up and deal with it”.
Feeling bad about the whole thing this morning, just looking for a 3rd party perspective.
Edit: Wow, this blew up. Just to clarify, the reason she didn't want to go is because she doesn't want to deal with people and try and keep kids behaving by herself. Normally I work from home so I can help her, but in this situation she has no help and she feels overwhelmed. That is the reason she told me. I, like I said, think that's a crappy reason, and I kinda wanted her to suck it up. There is of course more to the fight and more was said, but typing it all out seemed like a hassle. I just included the worse parts for context.
Today, she says that she is sorry and that she feels like she acted badly. Ironically, the relatives ended up changing plans again, so they are out of the house anyways.
My wife has had issues with emotions/anxiety, and yesterday was an example of the worst of it.
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